“I’m pissed at him! I’m going to tweet something to make him think I’m going out tonight. He’ll get jealous.” Most of us have definitely heard something similar or even this exclaimation verbatim come out of one of our friend’s or our own mouths at one point or another when discussing a new flame or a boyfriend. I feel like unfortunately everyone has had such thoughts and the desire to scheme in order to catch the attention or receive a reaction from our beaus. So, is this really necessary?? To me, it seems ingenuine. For one to truly like another person and these sentiments to perhaps gradually turn into love, one individual has to like you for you, not the persona you are adopting or the lies you are telling in order to intrigue him or her. The previous also sparks another question. Is it because of our own insecurities that we choose to scheme or because we truly want to keep our counterparts on their toes? Is telling ourselves we are are not going to text back for hours a façade to hide our own fear of seeming too available or feeling like we need to be dependent on another individual? Or are we simply trying to keep our person of interest guessing? I believe that the answer to these questions differs from person to person, but no matter their outcome, I propose one solution to all of these love games: let’s be ourselves. It’s fun to flirt, act coy (disregard Andrew Marvell’s poem “To his Coy Mistress”), and have fun, after all we are girls, right? However, all of these other crazy tactics have to come to an end. Make boys like you for the person you honestly are, not the image you force them to see you as. You will keep them intrigued with your intelligence, spontaneity, smile, or whatever else draws your paramour to you, not your tweet about getting hammered at the bar. Most importantly of all, do not worry about boys. At such young ages, boys should be the least of our worries. Have fun and do your thing; it will work out.
xx
S.
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